Is it OK to... Decline Mystery Meeting Invites?

Hey Kelly -

Someone I met at a networking event last month just sent me a calendar invite for coffee next week with the subject line 'Quick favor to discuss.' No context, no ask in advance, just an assumption I'd be available. I'm curious but also annoyed by the presumption. Thoughts?

Feeling Like My Calendar Got Hijacked

Dear Calendar Hijacked,

Curiosity is natural. So is irritation.

The bigger issue? The presumptive conclusion that you'll make time to meet AND help them out can hardly be described as generous networking.

Here’s how to reset - since something clearly intrigues you about this person and their ask:

“Hi [Name], thanks for the invite. I always like to have context before I commit my time — could you share a bit more about the favor you’d like to discuss over coffee?”

If it’s legit, they’ll clarify. If it piques your curiosity, you'll make the time. If not, you’ve just saved yourself the awkwardness of declining their quick favor IRL.

OK?

K.