From My Inbox: No Longer An Expert
Random interesting & useful 💩 pulled from the myriad of emails which land in my inbox.
A little aha! moment recently that I wanted to share with you. It occurred during one of my podcast listening, while out on a walk, moments (walking, in particular, is when I have aha! moments or break through a writing block). The podcast (since it is relevant here) was Smart Rookie (conversations on the power of being a rookie) which got me thinking about why or when I've made a career switch or why is it that what I focus on now, keeps me loving what I do...and it dawned on me, having to be right, having to know the answers vs seeking, trying, uncovering understanding, the difference between being anchored in one spot, and being in motion.
The expert vs rookie mindset.
Why did I leave the practice of law? The narrow restrictions of my expertise - no rookie (or any) mistakes allowed! - combined with the numbing treadmill of a can't ever be wrong professional routine. Why do I seek ways to explain how to connect (aka network) which eschew formulaic guidance and one-size networking templates? To leave room for curiosity in what are, unique moments of human interaction. No two people are the same, so how can any interaction look like another? With this aha! I hope to instill the rookie mindset of learning, discovery and mastery of this critically essential human skill - so you'll keep trying to make meaningful connections, over and over, again, and again...
With that, here's what I sifted out of my inbox for you this week:
Words provide social scaffolding. That is, they create expectations and norms that steer how you behave and react to other people. And vocabularies vary by culture and era.
Are you really in love? How expanding your love lexicon can change your relationships and how you see yourself (The Conversation)
self-editing in the workplace is a brutal form of self-sabotage. It not only robs women of their confidence and self-belief, but is catastrophic for creativity.
Stop editing yourself into oblivion (by Nicola Kemp for Media Leader)
Created by three whiskey loving women, Boss Molly is a bold wheated bourbon with an adventurous spirit.
Becoming Bourbon Curious with Boss Molly Bourbon (Smart Rookie podcast)
Once you burn some trust, it’s almost impossible to earn it back
Trading Trust (Seth's Blog)
What, I kept wondering, gave rise to the magic of passing a boundary and being instantly protected?
The cost of growing up in a low-level police state...Sanctuary: I grew up during The Troubles and have been seeking a place of peace ever since (The Guardian)
We found that candidates were talented, and yet they self-selected out
Breaking Through the Self-Doubt That Keeps Talented Women from Leading (HBR)
Because let's face it, who doesn't want more joy in their lives, right?
The One Million Years of Joy global research project aims to discover how people experience and share joy in their lifetimes. Take part in their research on joy.
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